November 24, 2017

Making the Holidays Great Again: Why Compromise Means Everything

by Gina Piacentino, Weldele Piacentino Law Group Co LPA

The days are now numbered, when the cranberry sauce, the Menorah and those stocking stuffers become a reality. Old traditions continue, and new traditions spark new memories. This season also brings stress over several divisive issues.

I remember in our household, there was always the great debate of the Christmas tree. My brother and I were adamant we have one in the corner, in front of all the windows. I was concerned Rudolf may miss the house (for obvious reasons) and my brother, as selfless as he is, wanted to give me the best shot possible at something more than coal. My father, however, never saw the need for a tree. It created the culture in our house that the holidays celebrate boxed gifts. Our father taught us a very important lesson: consider all the positions and reach a friendly compromise.

Debates over political beliefs and proper child rearing will arise; take time to listen, but know changing minds over lifelong beliefs will never happen over turkey and bourbon. The work holiday party is not the place for you to discuss the disappointment in your bonus. Instead consider a sit-down with your employer; this guarantees sobriety and clear thoughts from both sides. Raising children? The holidays stopped being about you the moment you had a child. Find a peaceful schedule you have developed between each other and stick to it.

While I am a practicing attorney, compromise has nothing to do with having a JD; it has everything to do with what the holiday season is all about. It is possible to enjoy this time of year, but it’s up to all of us to manage our emotions and make decisions, considering all points.

If you still deal with the stubborn co-worker or family member, find the positive light from their behavior. They may have a point or, to my father’s credit, a valuable lesson.

I wish to all a meaningful and happy holiday season, and to my father…we are keeping the tree in the basement this year.

Gina Piacentino